‘My teenage daughter got a job – I want to charge her for lifts home after work’

We all want to know that our children are safe and well, but in a time where petrol is more expensive than ever, it is really feasible for us to ferry them around everywhere? Especially when they have a job.

One woman took to Mumsnet to ask other mums what they’d do in her situation.

The mum explained her daughter is 19 and receives regular lifts to uni and her friend’s houses because she doesn’t drive.

She also said in her previous job, she’d pick her daughter up from work three times a week from the city centre at about 11pm.

She wrote: “As you can imagine, it’s not nice to be in the town especially at weekends when there’s the possibility of trouble, as there’s loads of drinking going on obviously.

“My daughter had said before that she’d look for another job with more suitable hours as she knew I didn’t really want to go into the town late at night and I didn’t like the thought of her waiting outside her place of work for a taxi, and not keen on her getting Ubers.

“Long story short, she’s found another job she loves, but, again it’s in the town centre and this time she finishes even later, just after midnight.

“My daughter is already asking if I can pick her up but is happy to get an Uber if not.

“Now, I don’t want to sit at home worrying again if she’s ok getting home, but also I don’t relish the thought of regular lifts from town so late at night.

“I’m also a bit put out regarding the cost of petrol when, if she’d got a job where she could get a bus then it’d saving me the money. Am I being unreasonable to think sod it , she can pay half of what a taxi would cost if she wants me to pick her up so late (after all it was her choice to go for this job) or should I suck it up and fetch her for free as I’m concerned about her getting home any other way?”

The mum began a fierce debate, with some saying they wouldn’t dream of charging their kids for lifts, but others saying they do.

“I don’t charge my teens for lifts regardless of where they’re from and when”, one wrote.

Another mum said: “I wouldn’t charge for lifts, but I also wouldn’t commit to picking her up after midnight regularly. She needs to find a job to can her herself to and from in my opinion.”

“She is getting paid so of course she should pay you”, one suggested.

Someone else wrote: “I wouldn’t agree to doing the lifts; she knows you don’t like the 11pm one so it seems quite unfair to then get an even later one. At the end of the day she is 19 and needs to be an adult about these things.

“I suspect after a little while of paying for an Uber she’ll think twice about getting a job where she can get the bus but she’s been used to relying on you so there isn’t the motivation.”